After a conversation with KL, I feel prompted to speak on a situation: (in a nutshell) A friend of friend is getting married to man that she has been dating for four months. From the outside looking in it looks like two young people who have fallen in love and have now made the decision to spend forever and a day together. But upon further investigation, there are some things aren't on the up and up and KL felt that if said woman was her close friend she would tell her that this was not a good decision. Although I know where she's coming from I also realize with any friendship/relationship you have figure out which battle is worth the fight. And to me, this is not worth it. I have my views on marriage and my girls have theirs. I 'm sure the way I plan to conduct my marriage will stand in contrast with my friends. However, when I see my friends making less than smart decisions I will say something but speaking on someones impending marriage gets a little tricky. Different beasts come out when people's significant other's are involved. Someone who is drunk on butterflies and rainbows may not take constructive criticism very well. (been there, done that). Woman spend so many years building and fostering friendships, but one wrong word about someones mate and that "sisterly bond" is out the window. (That never ceases to amaze me).... But I digress, marriage is a serious matter that involves two people at the end of the day. I may offer my opinion, but if said friend voices their happiness, then I'm game. If/when the marriage doesn't work out, I won't be there with my "I told you so!!" sign but I will be there to help her pick of the pieces. I think that is the most important thing.
Sometimes you just have to be the supportive friend, ((silently))
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