Just another day......

Just another day that came and went.
Just another day that was marked off the calendar.
I don't have a special place in my heart for Father's Day
I, a member of the fatherless tribe,
don't acknowledge this day
I have no anger
I actually enjoy the daddy-daughter pictures
that my friends post on the social networks
Although I have no pictures to post or memories to share,
I hope that my children in 6-10 years
will flood the social networks
with obnoxiously cute pictures
of their daddy ;-)
Twitter was abound with shoutouts to single moms doing it alone and tweets about deadbeat dads
The day dedicated to honoring the men (fathers, coaches, cousins, mentors, uncles, grandfathers, family friends....) that had a positive impact on people's lives were overshadowed with grief, bitterness, and hopelessness
It was quite sad.
Even for me
a woman who treats this as
just another day

TheSkinnyBlackGirl summed it up for me quite nicely.....


 "Father’s Day fits with Ramadan, Passover, or the birthdays of strangers; it’s a day that’s sacred to some, but irrelevant for me. I tend to let it quietly slip by as another inconsequential Sunday in June."

Quote Fest

just some random quotes I found on my computer and the internets....I left some comments too ;-)


"Men say they love independence in a woman, but they don't waste a second demolishing it brick by brick."-- Candice Bergen <<this.right.here

"A girl can wait for the right man to come along but in the meantime that still doesn't mean she can't have a wonderful time with all the wrong ones."


RT @assante For Colored Girls Who Considered The Wallslide When Reality Wasn’t Enough


"I wanna see something else in you before I invest in you" <<this is when I became a Wale fan. This is a lyric from Ambitious Girl Part I


But I showed up with whatever I had left

 When your feet cool down, and your lungs are full of a new
breath, and you are
ready to begin building


do not be afraid of the jaded. show them good does exist. there are such things as fairy tale endings and good men/women.<<Currently straddling reality and fairy tale endings. I'm only 23....I'll straddle until I can't straddle no mo'. I be stretching so its cool.

What is in a name?

I love my name. I love my mother for choosing my name. Couldn't imagine being called something else. My name is difficult for some. But I wouldn't have it any other way. I will most likely continue this tradition and give my daughter a difficult name. Hopefully she will appreciate it as I appreciate mine. 
*Warsan Shire is a poet. Her words, her poems are something special. *
The Birth Name ---- Warsan Shire


the name warsan means good news in the somali language. i hated it. i despised my name. i wanted to be called something soft, something that ended with an "ah" sound. my name is difficult to whisper into the side of my face. my name is easy to use with a hard voice. i appreciate that now. the hesitation on the other side of the phone. the way they would replace my name with 'baby'. give your daughters difficult names. give your daughters names that command the full use of tongue. my name makes you want to tell me the truth. my name doesn't allow me to trust anyone that cannot pronounce it right.my mother calls me 'warsanay'. if a man ever tried to call me that, it means he understands that i am someone's daughter. it means i'll let him call me down from a long building. praise my grandmother, warsan baraka. my father's mother. the woman i was named after.

What Toni Morrison Said in Sula

"She looked around for a place to be....The bathroom. It was both small and bright, and she wanted to be in a very small, very bright place. Small enough to contain her grief. Bright enough to throw into relief the dark things that cluttered her."---Sula

What He Said.....

This quote comes from an unlikely source
...and on this rare occasion we actually agree

"‎... don't be afraid to wait on something right."

Quote Junkie

After each quarter, I clean up my Gmail. Besides emails from professors, friends, and other random ish.....I had a slew of emails filled with quotes that I had found while I browsed the internets. Here are a few.


"Nothing in the world is worth having or worth doing unless it means effort, pain, difficulty... I have never in my life envied a human being who led an easy life. I have envied a great many people who led diffcult lives and led them well." Theodore Roosevelt


"Stay focused, stay motivated, and continue your hard work.  Nothing can stop you from achieving your goals with the right mental attitude.  Learn from your experiences, do your best and forget the rest." Dr. Callam (My O.Chem professor)


I am invariably late for appointments - sometimes as much as two hours. I've tried to change my ways but the things that make me late are too strong, and too pleasing-Marilyn Monroe


What do I wear in bed? Why, Chanel No. 5, of course."-Marilyn Monroe


A kiss is lovely trick desigened my nature to stop speech when words become superfluous- Ingrid Bergman


“Hug a hater, help a h*e and enlightened some white people along the way.”


GENT TIP: Stop taking women on emotional journeys if ur not prepared 2 accompany them. Sometimes she wasn't crazy till u made her that way

GENTLEMAN'S TIP: Every lady wants a gentleman who knows when she doesn't want him 2 be gentle .... #Pleasantries.

Potential must eventually lead to progress. #Pleasantries.

LADIES: Sex doesn't mean he loves u, likes u, is even interested, cares, thinks ur cute, finds u mildly attractive .. or even average. Ouch


I don't know why, but it gives me hope, hope that this something is more important than the sad things in my life, and that one day maybe those sad things won't have such power over me anymore.----post secret


"Missing someone gets easier everyday. Because, even though it is one day further from the last time you saw each other, it is one day closer to the next time you will”   <<<< this is some sappy nonsense that in  this moment I can't condone. #gsh*t


Men have enough friends, involuntarily, we ain’t tryin to actively make more women friends. #HustinBackwards

Sayings of the Week

Things I secretly feel should be on Tshirts, keychains, billboards, and coffee mugs

"You're a G.Finish that deal or chalk it up" ((Yours truly))

"You're a non-motherf* factor" ((Evelyn Lozano, Basketball Wives))

"Shawty.Go.Hard.Concrete"

"My school>your school"

"Come harder. This won't be easy"

What she said.

"Oh, and he’s gotta like books. Because a man who is too busy to sit down and read a book is a man that I do not want. And of course, he has to lay pipe like a champ. That’s non-negotiable"


.....she [skinnyblackgirl.com] pretty much summed it up. 

What He Said.....

"We love to remind ourselves we can’t sleep with everyone we want, but what we fail to remember is we can’t get into a relationship with everyone we sleep with. If we are being really honest with ourselves, we will face the fact that while people are in our lives for a reason, some of those people only have one reason, and sometimes that one reason is hyper-specific."---Jozen Cummings

I am the Void Filler

Like a crescent moon cradling the night sky

I find myself wrapped in your arms

no space between us

I am the void filler

momentarily covering that hole

in your heart

the one you won't admit is still there

crawling hands cry for me

when I'm not close to you

I am the void filler

giving you my body when

you need something to hold on to

not wanting to widen a space that's already there

*inspired by>>>>*http://darnellwalker.wordpress.com/2011/01/13/the-void-filler-noise/ #homage.

What She Said.....

"Observe the ladies of the court. See how they achieve what they want from thier men, not by stamping their little feet but by allowing the men to believe they they indeed, are in charge.

That is the art of being a woman"--Lady Elizabeth

What She Said....

"Why does a woman have to be so silly to catch a husband??"---Scarlett O' Hara

What He Said.....

From "The Statute of Limitations on P*ssy"

"Sometimes, too much information too soon can fuck shit up"

What twitter said

Never regret a single moment of the journey. If it wasn't your destination - it was preparation. #TheSW

Why am I worried about something God has already handled?? Let me chill out.---some random that was RT'd by one of my followers. Lol

God puts unexpected people at unexpected times, so that we will keep hoping for an unexpected result in our life.--Rob Kardashian

Sometimes you just have to get out of your own way.--Jeanette Jenkins

What They Said

For those that know me, know that I'm good for finding a quote that pertains to the situation! Here are some of my favorite ones :)

‎"I have created a struggle between what I know to be true now and what I have yet to discover. It is a thin line between intrigue and frustration"--SkinnyJeanius

"how i operate: i give to you the energy you give to me. if i seem like "blah" - check yourself.--SkinnyJeanius

‎"never keep things around for convenience. when you're done. drop it. longevity has its place"--SkinnyJeanius

‎"i sometimes wish i didn't have goals. all i'd want is a 9-5, an afterwork bar, and a comfortable pillow."--SkinnyJeanius

"But yeah, a [boy] friend would be nice. Someone who will let me use them and use me in return not for sex nor for money, just for fun." --Jozen Cummings :p

‎"We became an ending before we had become much of a beginning" Asha Bandele

In the end, maybe it's not how you reach a place that matters. Just that you get there at all.--Antoine

"Any man worth anything to a woman is going to make her upset, that’s par for the course, really. It’s when she’s not upset by my shenanigans that I know I am now, if not worthless, worth less than I was before"-Jozen Cummings

Know your position. Don't fool yourself into thinking it's anything more than what it is. It isn't...--Necole Bitchie

‎"Black men are what I love. Black love is the goal. You do what makes you happy, I'll do the same"--SistaToldja

"If there’s one thing I have learned over the years, good women are universal, and good men are relative"--Jozen Cummings

‎"Drinking in the mainstream of his mind. Filling up the cup of my emotions. Spilling over into all I do. If I only I could get lost in his ocean. Surviving on the thought of loving you..." Lauryn Hill

this chapter of my life is such a page turner... :-)

skinnyjeanius *Her: I have a boyfriend. - me: I have a dead plant at home. - her: what? - me: oh! I thought we were saying things that didn't matter*