Just another day......

Just another day that came and went.
Just another day that was marked off the calendar.
I don't have a special place in my heart for Father's Day
I, a member of the fatherless tribe,
don't acknowledge this day
I have no anger
I actually enjoy the daddy-daughter pictures
that my friends post on the social networks
Although I have no pictures to post or memories to share,
I hope that my children in 6-10 years
will flood the social networks
with obnoxiously cute pictures
of their daddy ;-)
Twitter was abound with shoutouts to single moms doing it alone and tweets about deadbeat dads
The day dedicated to honoring the men (fathers, coaches, cousins, mentors, uncles, grandfathers, family friends....) that had a positive impact on people's lives were overshadowed with grief, bitterness, and hopelessness
It was quite sad.
Even for me
a woman who treats this as
just another day

TheSkinnyBlackGirl summed it up for me quite nicely.....


 "Father’s Day fits with Ramadan, Passover, or the birthdays of strangers; it’s a day that’s sacred to some, but irrelevant for me. I tend to let it quietly slip by as another inconsequential Sunday in June."

What She Said.....

"I ask the universe for amusement; it responds with something I never expect"-- Demetria Lucas ;)

What is in a name?

I love my name. I love my mother for choosing my name. Couldn't imagine being called something else. My name is difficult for some. But I wouldn't have it any other way. I will most likely continue this tradition and give my daughter a difficult name. Hopefully she will appreciate it as I appreciate mine. 
*Warsan Shire is a poet. Her words, her poems are something special. *
The Birth Name ---- Warsan Shire


the name warsan means good news in the somali language. i hated it. i despised my name. i wanted to be called something soft, something that ended with an "ah" sound. my name is difficult to whisper into the side of my face. my name is easy to use with a hard voice. i appreciate that now. the hesitation on the other side of the phone. the way they would replace my name with 'baby'. give your daughters difficult names. give your daughters names that command the full use of tongue. my name makes you want to tell me the truth. my name doesn't allow me to trust anyone that cannot pronounce it right.my mother calls me 'warsanay'. if a man ever tried to call me that, it means he understands that i am someone's daughter. it means i'll let him call me down from a long building. praise my grandmother, warsan baraka. my father's mother. the woman i was named after.

What she said.

This is Stacey Dash's twitter bio. 

Its never too soon and Its never too late

I think she may be on to something.